Rahsia Kegembiraan Hidup Dari Pandangan Remaja Pra Matang

Paris Hilton, who is an expert at maintaining positive public image once said "You should live everyday like it's your birthday". I find this quote fascinating, partially because of the positive philosophy behind it and mostly because i have realized that you dont have to be smart to come up with such an inspiring quote.

Sepanjang 23 tahun menempuhi hidup ini *cakap sambil urut janggut*, i have learned that kebahagiaan hidup adalah ditentukan oleh diri sendiri. The way you carry yourself, and how you handle your emotions memainkan peranan penting dalam mementenkan ketenteraman jiwa. And how exactly do you achieve that kebahagiaan hidup dan ketenteraman jiwa? Here's how (based on the life experience of a 23 year old medical student).

1. Dont take yourself too seriously

Most people who take themselves too seriously are those who we call the no-fun people. Laugh at your flaws once in a while.Macam kalau kita dianugerahkan tubuh badan gemuk, acknowledge it and make fun of ourself before others did. Self deprecation is the best defense mechanism of all time. Not only you'll accept all your flaws and be OK with it, you wont feel offended when someone insults your gemuk-ness. 

Contoh penerimaan positif kegemukan diri;

-gambar sebelum dan selepas. T___T

And if you cant take jokes, dont make one. Ini kutuk orang boleh, bila orang kutuk kau nak emosi. Apahal?

2.Acceptance

If you are planning to keep certain people in your life for a long run, you better accept them for who they are. If there is one thing i've learned in Psychiatry it is not easy to change people's personality. Some people are born asshole. And there is nothing you can do about it. You can either accept them or just look for another friends. Trust me, i've tried to change an asshole once, and i ended up smelling like shit. 

Or if you have slightly more patience than me, you can only pray to God that they'll change. 

But in the mean time, good luck with your suffering.

3.Forgive 

When people do things that annoy you, just think of bad things you've done to them. Like let say your roommate loves to sing that annoying Najwa Latip song out loud,in the middle of the night. Instead of shooting her in the face, just think of all the bad things you've done to her. Sebab kita manusia ni salah orang semua nampak je, salah sendiri tu yang susah sikit nak jumpa. Not necessarily kesalahan besar, tapi kesalahan-kesalahan kecil macam kita suka sepahkan bilik sedangkan si peminat Najwa Latip ini lah yang setiap minggu akan spend 2 jam mengemas dan mengemop. Always think of other's good deeds nescaya anda mudah memaafi dan boleh tolerate dengan lebih baik. Besides, life is always about give and take.

-gambar takde kena-mengena dengan point yang diberikan

4. Avoid drama

Some people just love drama. Especially girls. Even small small things also nak blown out of proportion. Selalu sungguh kita dengar ungkapan 'kalau tak puas hati cakap depan-depan la'. And what happen when you say it to their face? They throw a bitch fit. Lebih teruk lagi ada yang asal sentap tulis kat facebook, seakan-akan mahu satu dunia tahu persengketaan peribadi. Bila ditambah dengan komen batu api yang tak tahu cerita asal, menjadi-jadilah drama minggu ini. 

Sometimes these people dont stop at facebook only, siap wujudkan satu blog sebagai medan meluahkan perasaan secara terbuka. Personally, i hate blogs yang every single post asyik lah nak berdrama. Harini tak puas hati dengan A,esok tak puas hati dengan B. Why is your life full of negativity? Is your life THAT unhappy?

So sometimes it is better to keep things to yourself rather than express all your ketidakpuashatian.

 Bila meluahkan itu akan mendatangkan lebih banyak keburukan, maka adalah lebih baik berdiam. Dan jika dengan berdiam jiwa masih rasa tak tenteram, refer point #2 and #3. Menerima dan memaafkan.

5. Shit happens

Yes, it is true. Shit happens and it stinks. But you have the option to flush it down the toilet. When something upsets you, you are entitled to be sad. But grieving period jangan la terlampau over sampai melupakan yang hidup ini sesungguhnya adalah dipenuhi dengan perkara-perkara awesome. Ingatlah yang satu kesedihan diikuti dengan 99 perkara yang membahagiakan. Unless, the movie Nur Kasih is based on your life.

6. Be thankful

Be thankful for what you have, and what you dont have. Once you can accept the fact that you cant have everything in life, you'd be the happiest person on earth. 

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What Cuti?

Cuti Labour Day dimulakan dengan kunjungan hormat ke wad psikiatri. Have to clerk a case for case presentation tomorrow.

And of course cuti umum begini, wad adalah sunyi sepi. I was so optimist that we're going to get an easy,simple case. Interview went well despite patient having bizzare delusion. I can still take it untill she said.....

"I was a president of CIMB Bank and founder of Astro. Owh Im also a co founder of USM"

I.Give.Up.

Have a fun filled cuti everyone!

Gambar Hiasan-was taken at Prangin Mall arcade center 2 weeks ago.

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Love Is A Funny Thing

Truth be told, Psychiatry is very boring. Too many theories and too much time spent on one patient. Kalau clerking biasa takes you roughly setengah jam, Psychiatry clerking ambil masa at least one hour. And by the end of 1++ hour tu bukan patient je rasa nak amukan, dengan kau-kau sekali rasa nak bakar hospital.

But today i've learned something new.

Instead of going to the psychiatry ward like usual, we went to a school for kanak-kanak kurang upaya. These kids ada yang Down's,autistic,dyslexic etc etc. Tapi semua periang comel melampaui batas.

Exhibit A:

-memang rasa nak kidnap bawak balik

The principal, Puan Katijah was soo nice and welcoming. She's so enthusiastic in what she's doing it's inspiring. Dah jadi cikgu di sekolah khas since 1984,i wasnt even in my zygotic form at that time. She even wrote songs and later sanggup turun KL carik komposer untuk record lagu ciptaan ini bagi digunakan sebagai alat bantuan mengajar.

I personally think Malaysia needs more teachers like her. Someone who is really passionate in educating the kids, bukan yang sebenarnya jadik cikgu sebab tiba-tiba rasa kerja cikgu je yang senang lepastu cuti banyak heaven woih.

Untuk membuktikan betapa beliau berbesar hati menerima kunjungan student medicine yang tak seberapa ini siap ada prepare bihun goreng tomyam for us T_T

Sepatutnya kitorang yang datang ni lah yang bawak buah tangan,ni dia pulak yang siap jamu bihun goreng satu tray besar. Dahlah makan sampai licin -__-"

Sambil makan bihun sambil tengok students menyanyi menari. Comelness overload.

Ni bukan menyanyi berjoget lagu-lagu bimbo Selena Gomez dan seangkatannya, the songs they sang and dance to were actually very educational. Ada lagu pasal banyakkan minum air, pasal menjaga kebersihan diri and also lagu menggalakkan mereka untuk jadi budak yang baik.

-maaf,kamera sedikit getaran jiwa.

Later in the afternoon i went to a psychogeriatric clinic at the hospital. Psychogeriatric kiranya specialize untuk orang-orang tua yang ada masalah psychology. We met this old couple there. The husband is 90 tahun and suffering from Alzheimer's disease so ada dementia.

The moment they walked in you can notice that the wife is really exhausted sebab jaga orang dementia ni bukan senang. Sikit-sikit dia lupa and they are highly dependant on their caregiver.

The tone in his wife's voice kadang-kadang macam nak marah pun ada sebab pakcik ni dahlah ada hearing problem lepastu tambah pulak dengan penyakit ni memang sah-sah kena repeat arahan lapanploh kali baru nak paham. We conducted a mini mental state examination on this uncle to assess his cognitive function.

Based on the assessments, the patient will be given a total score to monitor the level of deterioration in his orientation,memory etc etc. One of the assessment requires the patient to write down a sentence. Since this 90 year old uncle can understand his wife better, we asked his wife to give out the instruction.

This aunty in her high pitch voice shouted to the uncle in chinese,asking him to write down a sentence. And this is what he wrote;

:')

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Diari Seorang Opah

Opah is an outgoing sassy lady. So whenever we want to go lepak at Kuala Kangsar town we'll bring her along. Not only she's a joy to be around, she'll pay for your cendol too lol. Opah, maafkan kami cucu-cucumu kerana kuat menge-pow.

Last Saturday we went to Kuala Kangsar town to get some cendol. It's been a while since Opah went out so she's quite excited too. Dia punya semangat macam nak ajak pi melancong Paris. We had cendol, laksa and pasembor at this place near Sungai Perak.

And guess what Opah brought along in her handbag...

Telur rebus kenduri.

"Opah,bawak telur rebus,boleh makan dengan laksa",kata beliau penuh yakin. Kau mampu?

Selepas kenyang,ingat nak terus balik sebab hari macam nak hujan. On our way home lalu kedai bunga. Tiba-tiba Opah nak beli tanah baja pulak. Apa saja untukmu Opah...

Since dua minggu ni cuti dari tempahan catering, she's been spending her time doing some gardening. Semai benih terung and some other ulam that i've never heard of before. Maka tak hairanlah orang kampung menggelar beliau Martha Stewart Padang Rengas. Ok yang tu tipu.

When i reached my kampung on Friday she was sitting in the kitchen drenched in sweat. I asked her what she was doing, she said "takde apa buat apa pun, baru mencangkul tanam pokok nyor 5 batang". To me 'takde buat apa' means lying down in bed whole day,watching That's So Raven on youtube while sipping on ice cold Ribena.Clearly we have a very different definition of 'takde buat apa'.

Lepas mendapat tanah baja yang dihajati i thought we can finally go back home. Tapi tiba-tiba on the way ternampak pasar malam pula. Opah and pasar malam is like hipsters and Pavilion. Justeru wajib turun kereta dan membeli-belah di situ.

Selalunya Opah jalan slow, tapiii dekat Pasar Malam/ Pasar Tani atau yang sewaktu dengannya her speed doubles. Jalan laju menonong je excited nak beli ikan. Pasar malam juga salah satu hotspot untuk menge-pow beliau. Komfem dapat.

Sebelum pulang there's one final stop. We had to go to this tailor's house sebab Opah nak tempah baju. Bukan baju raya, baju basahan katanya. Kelasss kau Maria baju basahan tempah kat tukang jahit. Ini tailor yang memang selalu pergi untuk tempah baju kerana menurut Opah design Vera Wang Padang Rengas ini memang menepati citarasa beliau.

-sedang go through design dan silhouette yang bakal digayakan

I've a feeling that she's gonna look extra comel in her new baju. Just look at the fabric that she has chosen...

-purple kaler polka dot gituhhh.

In an unrelated note, i saw this car sticker in Kuala Kangsar,

"hon la kalau u syok kat i"

*pengsan*

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Penang Is Not Safe Anymore

Another round of tremor in Penang. Unlike last time, semua orang tak tidur mati kali ni. I was in the middle of printing out my Psychiatry notes, while streaming the latest episode of 2 Broke Girls on my laptop.

As i make my way down the stairs from the 9th floor i can still feel my apartment block shaking and remember myself thinking; shit just got real. Called Mama immediately in case something bad happen, so that she wont have to find out about it from Buletin Utama. Dramatic much?

Orang ramai with their most selebet attire. Pengajarannya, you've got to look good at all time. You never know when things like this happen, you might have to wear those oversized worn out tshirt and that hideous shorts you bought at pasar malam for weeks to come in some pusat perlindungan mangsa gempa.

As for myself, eversince that first gempa bumi i started to wear a more sopan sleeping attire lol.

Then there's a second bouts of tremor. But i was at a mamak having nasik goreng ayam with a friend. Tiba-tiba rasa pening but my friend didn't feel anything. Right now i just hope my dodgy apartment can withstand all this gempa.

Because if it collapse,im so gonna ask for refund from my landlord.

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Nasik Kandaq Beratuq

Went to Nasi Kandar Beratur just now. Dont you dare give me that look! I know i've promised not to eat nasi kandar for dinner anymore, but i've been wanting to try this nasi kandar since the first time i pass through that annoying toll on Penang Bridge. Aaaanddd i skipped lunch today, so ini kira justified ok.

Memang dah lama teringin nak try tapi takde masa yang sesuai nak dibazirkan semata-mata nak beratur tunggu turn pilih lauk. Besides i've heard stories about tikus berlari-lari riang di sekeliling restoran ini. Me and tikus, we dont get along very well. That is why i will never eat at Lineclear. Itu macam headquarters tikus SeMalaysia. Beratur ni macam bersih sikit. Sikit je la.

I didnt eat much pun. Cuma nasik, ayam goreng,telur sotong, bendi, timun and kuah campur je. Ok go ahead,you can all roll your eyes now.

All i can say is this restaurant is so overhyped. Rasa nasi kandar tipikal,nothing special. Like i said before, i've tasted better nasi kandar in KL. Why people beratur every night for it? I dont know. Itu cuma Haron Din boleh jawab mungkin ada jin atau ilmu pelaris apa dia pakai. Whatever it is, it's working.

Komplen kemain kau, habis jugak sepinggan. T__T

Now if you can excuse me, i need to do 5000 sit ups.

In my dream.

ps:selamat cuti umum!

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Kenapa Anda Tidak Perlu Tonton Titanic

Im doing Psychiatry now and its a total snoozefest. By the end of this rotation i'll probably end up being crazy myself. We have a weekly quiz on every Monday, so goodbye fun weekends.

-Yep,that's me reading Psychiatry textbook-while waiting,at a carwash T_T

So on Saturday night i decided that i had enough of studying cewah konfiden gila kau and went for a midnight screening of Titanic 3D. I've seen this movie before tapi saja suka buang masa nak tengok lagi.

And personally i think nobody should spend their precious moolah to watch this movie at the cinema. Here's why...

1) 3D my ass.

It's an old film, shot originally in 2D. When they converted it to 3D nothing spectacular to be expected. The whole purpose of re-releasing this movie is no other than to make James Cameron a few millions richer. Most of the time the only 3D part was the subtitle and as expected,the erotic part of the film was cut by Lembaga Penapisan. So no Kate Winslet 3D boobies for you pervs out there. Even if you take off your 3D glasses you won't see much difference.

2) Same old storyline

DUH. At the end of the movie the ship still sink, and Jack still mati beku.

It's still sad but somehow the emotion was not quite the same like waktu mula-mula tengok dulu. You will cry but not because of the sad ending, tapi sebab mengenangkan 17 ringgit melayang beli tiket cerita 3D yang tak berapa nak 3D.

3)Asshole audience

Disebabkan ini cerita lama and people kinda know the storyline already, bila sampai part-part yang macam bosan sikit tu mula lah asshole-asshole pawagam buat bising. There's this one Ah Beng sitting at front row who thinks he's so taiko that he can answer his phone in the middle of the movie. Orang-orang macamni elok kau rejam dengan Nokia 3310. Lepastu ada this one aunty who keep on yapping about how the 3D glasses gives her double vision. Seriously aunty, balik lipat kain la woi.

4) It's pretty damn long- 3hours

Walaupun dah pernah tengok, i forgot about how this movie gives Hindustan a run for their money. But the good thing is tak sedar pun dekat 3 jam duduk dalam tu , masuk pukul 12.15 habis 3 pagi. Yang tak bagusnya ialah bila kau ada kuiz the following Monday and you realize shoot! takde masa nak qada' tidur esok sebab nak cuba habiskan baca notes. Cuba, kata kunci di situ.

But on the other hand, those of you who has never seen this movie you should definitely go see it. Walaupun filem ini agak cekik darah but it's no doubt one of the best movie of our generation.

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