Rahsia Kegembiraan Hidup Dari Pandangan Remaja Pra Matang

Paris Hilton, who is an expert at maintaining positive public image once said "You should live everyday like it's your birthday". I find this quote fascinating, partially because of the positive philosophy behind it and mostly because i have realized that you dont have to be smart to come up with such an inspiring quote.

Sepanjang 23 tahun menempuhi hidup ini *cakap sambil urut janggut*, i have learned that kebahagiaan hidup adalah ditentukan oleh diri sendiri. The way you carry yourself, and how you handle your emotions memainkan peranan penting dalam mementenkan ketenteraman jiwa. And how exactly do you achieve that kebahagiaan hidup dan ketenteraman jiwa? Here's how (based on the life experience of a 23 year old medical student).

1. Dont take yourself too seriously

Most people who take themselves too seriously are those who we call the no-fun people. Laugh at your flaws once in a while.Macam kalau kita dianugerahkan tubuh badan gemuk, acknowledge it and make fun of ourself before others did. Self deprecation is the best defense mechanism of all time. Not only you'll accept all your flaws and be OK with it, you wont feel offended when someone insults your gemuk-ness. 

Contoh penerimaan positif kegemukan diri;

-gambar sebelum dan selepas. T___T

And if you cant take jokes, dont make one. Ini kutuk orang boleh, bila orang kutuk kau nak emosi. Apahal?

2.Acceptance

If you are planning to keep certain people in your life for a long run, you better accept them for who they are. If there is one thing i've learned in Psychiatry it is not easy to change people's personality. Some people are born asshole. And there is nothing you can do about it. You can either accept them or just look for another friends. Trust me, i've tried to change an asshole once, and i ended up smelling like shit. 

Or if you have slightly more patience than me, you can only pray to God that they'll change. 

But in the mean time, good luck with your suffering.

3.Forgive 

When people do things that annoy you, just think of bad things you've done to them. Like let say your roommate loves to sing that annoying Najwa Latip song out loud,in the middle of the night. Instead of shooting her in the face, just think of all the bad things you've done to her. Sebab kita manusia ni salah orang semua nampak je, salah sendiri tu yang susah sikit nak jumpa. Not necessarily kesalahan besar, tapi kesalahan-kesalahan kecil macam kita suka sepahkan bilik sedangkan si peminat Najwa Latip ini lah yang setiap minggu akan spend 2 jam mengemas dan mengemop. Always think of other's good deeds nescaya anda mudah memaafi dan boleh tolerate dengan lebih baik. Besides, life is always about give and take.

-gambar takde kena-mengena dengan point yang diberikan

4. Avoid drama

Some people just love drama. Especially girls. Even small small things also nak blown out of proportion. Selalu sungguh kita dengar ungkapan 'kalau tak puas hati cakap depan-depan la'. And what happen when you say it to their face? They throw a bitch fit. Lebih teruk lagi ada yang asal sentap tulis kat facebook, seakan-akan mahu satu dunia tahu persengketaan peribadi. Bila ditambah dengan komen batu api yang tak tahu cerita asal, menjadi-jadilah drama minggu ini. 

Sometimes these people dont stop at facebook only, siap wujudkan satu blog sebagai medan meluahkan perasaan secara terbuka. Personally, i hate blogs yang every single post asyik lah nak berdrama. Harini tak puas hati dengan A,esok tak puas hati dengan B. Why is your life full of negativity? Is your life THAT unhappy?

So sometimes it is better to keep things to yourself rather than express all your ketidakpuashatian.

 Bila meluahkan itu akan mendatangkan lebih banyak keburukan, maka adalah lebih baik berdiam. Dan jika dengan berdiam jiwa masih rasa tak tenteram, refer point #2 and #3. Menerima dan memaafkan.

5. Shit happens

Yes, it is true. Shit happens and it stinks. But you have the option to flush it down the toilet. When something upsets you, you are entitled to be sad. But grieving period jangan la terlampau over sampai melupakan yang hidup ini sesungguhnya adalah dipenuhi dengan perkara-perkara awesome. Ingatlah yang satu kesedihan diikuti dengan 99 perkara yang membahagiakan. Unless, the movie Nur Kasih is based on your life.

6. Be thankful

Be thankful for what you have, and what you dont have. Once you can accept the fact that you cant have everything in life, you'd be the happiest person on earth. 

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